Every woman loves to receive a gift which has been chosen especially for her. But no man wants to feel like that awkward guy in a lingerie boutique, trying to keep a low profile as he haplessly browses racks of lingerie with rapidly declining confidence in what his love would like to receive (or wear, for that matter). So we've put together a fail-safe guide of 5 easy steps to help you buy her lingerie she will love. Because it's important that she'll love it in order for her to wear it with confidence... and that's what we all want, right?!
Step 1 - What's her bra size?
Getting the correct bra size is the first and most important detail. Don't just guess! Describing her bra size as 'I don't know... a handful?' won't get you far. It's time to do some detective work and your research starts in her lingerie drawer. What sizes of bra and brief does she wear? Remember to check whether it is US, UK or European sizing as they can differ. If you're not certain about her bra size, then a few pairs of sexy, lacy knickers could be just what you're after.
Hot tip: Check out the sizes of her most often worn bras (if that means grabbing one off the washing line, then so be it!).
Step 2 - Push-up, underwire or balconette?
Different bras suit different shapes. Some women wear only a full cup bra because they like to feel ultimate support. Other women like a half cup to show a little cleavage. So where do you start? Cast your mind back to the styles you found in her lingerie drawer. The style that she feels and looks best in will depend on her body type. Again, every woman is different. If you're not sure, you may be best to go in-between and buy a balconette (balcony) bra. If all this information is making your head spin, we recommend getting the help of an expert bra fitter for guidance.
Step 3 - What's her style?
If her bra drawer is fairly simple with nude or black bras, it may not be your best bet to go too extreme. Perhaps try something with a little lace edging, or a bright, fun colour. If she often wears cute or sexy bras, then you can push it a little more and find a red plunge bra or a black lacy half-cup bra. Every woman likes to feel attractive, but we don't all take the same approach to defining what we feel is sexy. If your partner prefers stylish and sensual, go for lingerie with subtle colour nuances, opaque tulle, sensual embroidery or a touch of lace. If she really likes to make the most of her seductive curves, choose lingerie in a transparent fabric or a bra that shows off more cleavage. Every woman is different. Take notice of her preferred bottoms. Many women don't like thongs (g-strings) and won't wear them. In that case, you're best to go with a brief or short. Only if you know she likes them is it safe to buy a thong.
Hot tip: Make sure to focus on buying something she will actually wear and not take offence to. Perhaps that French maid costume fantasy is better kept to yourself.... unless you're certain she would approve!
Step 4: What's her favourite colour?
There are a plethora of colours to pick from. You can go for the traditional sexy red, a pattern, or play it safe with black. We recommend a pretty, lace black set if you are not sure. If she usually wears more neutral colours, she will probably prefer subtle tints like grey, dark blue, stylish black or soft natural colours. If she is more colourful in her dress, consider something in a daring orange, seductive pink or fiery red.
Step 5: Playing it safe
What does it mean if she says she likes it, but doesn't wear it? Perhaps she doesn't love it? Maybe it's the wrong size? Or she could lack body confidence (and doesn't feel confident about trying it on to show you). If you want to go with something a little more daring, we recommend that you also get something you know she will like.
Unwrapping that special gift is always wonderful. But if you've lost confidence altogether, buy her a Brava gift voucher. If she has shopped at Brava before, she will love you for it. If she didn't know Brava existed before you introduced her to us, she will love you even more! So many women with a fuller bust have a lot of difficulties finding well-fitting, beautiful bras and expert fitters to help them. We have no doubt she will be grateful way beyond Christmas!
Hot tip: Buy a sexy pair of briefs to wrap around your Gift Voucher for a real impact.
Note: This blog was originally published in December 2016 and has been updated in December 2018.